Sunday, September 14, 2014

So you want to be famous - 7 reasons you may want to think twice

This summer my sister and I took a trip to Cannes, France. We posed on the well-known red carpet under the sun with our big hats, along with a whole bunch of other eager tourists. And we even felt like Stars when a couple of people insisted they have their picture taken with us. What fun! Who doesn't enjoy a little red carpet attention? Even on social media. I see it everyday. One way or the other on some social media site. Some eager fan asking someone with a great amount of "followers" to "like" their page or give them a shout out. I see people asking others for advise on how they got so many "subscribers" or "follows". And also, people who leave comments like "I wish I were you". Oh and trust me, I've been there. When I was way younger, I admired certain actors. Sure, because of their great acting skills, but also because I wondered what it would be like to get the attention they got, even if it was for a day. I thought their lives was bliss.

Well, here are 7 reasons I think anyone should think twice before wishing they were famous.

1) Do you know you?

You read right. Do YOU know who YOU are? Before you get out there in front of the whole world, make sure that you know who you are and are confident being that person. Because seriously, if you can't decide who you are, then the world will do it for you. They'll tell you who they want you to be and well, being a people pleaser never made anyone the happiest person alive. You'll wear yourself out trying to please people by being who they expect you to be.

2) Do you love yourself?

The thing about being in the spotlight is that lots of people will tell you how much they love you. Which is great. But also, lots of people will tell you how much they don't like you or what you do. Whether you're a singer, an actor, a sports player, a dancer, an author or a concert pianist...there will always be critics and they will criticize you about close to everything. I once read where a celebrity wrote she'd been hurt by the comment a critic made about what she wore. You have feelings so the criticizing will hurt. BUT when you truly love you for you then you'll be able to rise above the opinion of others.

3) Be content with your life

Now, you're thinking, 'it's easy for her to type that, she doesn't know what my life is like'. Look, if you have friends and family who love you, a roof over your head, food on the table, and are able to afford an education then really, you've got something to be thankful for. Remember, godliness with contentment is great gain (1 Timothy 6:6). If you can't be happy and satisfied with what you have right now, chances are, you still won't be satisfied with fame and/or wealth. 

Big Sis and I on the Cannes red carpet this summer

4) Things are not always the way they seem

You probably envy a lot of celebrities for one reason or the other. But we forget that they are just human beings like you and I with their own flaws and yes, struggles. While they might not struggle to be noticed or to pay the bills...they still have struggles. An author once wrote that while she was an aspiring author, she would never have imagined that being published would bring on its own set of challenges. Every stage in life comes with a different type of challenge. Everything won't suddenly smell of roses because you're a YouTube sensation or you made it into a blockbuster movie. Sure, that instagramer looks like they're having the time of their life. Sure the pictures give you some insight into their perfect life. But remember that you can make things look the way you want them to on a photograph. I'm not saying every known person is really miserable. Far from it. I'm saying what you see is not always the way it is. A young artist in her twenty-somethings took her own life not long ago. Many people commented on her posts on social media asking why in the world she would do such a thing since she had the perfect life. Someone commented declaring how they couldn't understand this artist's actions because they would've "traded lives with [her] in a heartbeat". The grass is always greener...

5) Don't let the quest for fame dictate your life

"Seek first God's kingdom and what God wants. Then all your other needs will be met as well." . Matthew 6:33 NCV.

Put God first. 
Don't be so into the fame quest that you forget what matters most. Love people and use things, not the other way round. When you change the order of things, then you are doing it wrong! 

"but remember the Lord your God! It is he who gives the power to become rich" Deut. 8:18 NCV. 

And I couldn't be more serious about this one. I've seen it happen time and time again. When you love God and seek to please Him, He will somehow work things out for you - maybe not in the way you imagined, but things will surely work out. Sometimes you won't even have to break a sweat. That's what He's capable of.

And finally, think about this: "For what does a man have if he gets all the world and loses his own soul? What can a man give to buy back his soul?"  Matthew 16:26 NLV.

Enough said. 

6) Do not despise small beginnings - Start small!

You're here for a reason. God has a purpose for your life. The bitter truth is, that purpose might or might not include fame. It really doesn't matter, as long as you're in God's will and doing what He's called you to do. Look, quit wishing you were somewhere else or you were someone else. God has you right where He wants you. Be a blessing there! He who is faithful in the little things will be entrusted with greater things (Luke 16:10 paraphrased). Before you're entrusted with fame and popularity, you have to be faithful where you are, no matter how small the beginnings! Would you love to someday be a famous Christian singer? Well, have you thought of singing at your church, at friends' parties or just blessing viewers on YouTube? Would you like to one day be an on-demand public speaker? Well, why don't you start by sharing with your youth group or prayer group...etc. Why don't you record encouraging short messages for your friends and family? Be a blessing to those around you. Faithfulness is always rewarded. Just know that you're gonna have to start small!

“The people should not think that small beginnings are unimportant. They will be happy when they see Zerubbabel with tools, building the Temple." - Zechariah 4:10 NCV.

7) You are known and loved

But most importantly, know this: whether or not your name ends up in magazines or on the news, whether or not you have a crazy number of subscribers, likes or followers, whether or not your name one day appears in history books or becomes a well-known label...You are KNOWN and LOVED by the one who crafted and created you. 

"You made my whole being; you formed me in my mother’s body. I praise you because you made me in an amazing and wonderful way. What you have done is wonderful. I know this very well. You saw my bones being formed as I took shape in my mother’s body. When I was put together there, you saw my body as it was formed. All the days planned for me were written in your book before I was one day old. God, your thoughts are precious to me. They are so many!" Psalm 139: 13-17 NCV (emphasis added). 

And that truth,my friends, is really all that matters!


  1. Was refreshed by this. This made me look at fame in a different light. I just want to please God. Xo

    1. Thank you so much, sister! Glory be to God! Yess!! I agree! The most important thing is pleasing God. Its really not about us!

      How are you doing Sis? Glad to hear from you. God bless you abundantly.

  2. This was such a lovely write up!
    Even for people who into social media, we have to learn to do it for God and not for man!

    1. Glory be to God dear Sis! Yes ohhh! It is easy to let social media attention go to our heads. I so agree with you, Sis! Anything we do, we do to the glory of God and not for the promotion of self. Thank you for reading and commenting dearie. Blessings!